I honestly feel the same way, and the only rational explanation I could give you is that they have all the attributes of someone who is in a relationship with you, without being in a relationship with you. Think about it
- They care for you on an individual care level.
- They talk to you almost intimately, because they are trying to figure out how to care for you in the best way possible.
- They listen to you attentively in order to do this.
I used to be a nurse. I thought most of my female colleagues were attractive. Nurses are educated. They tend to have excellent people skills. They are scupulous about personal cleanliness. Their jobs are usually active to the point of being strenuous – so much so that many leave the job as they reach middle age. (So nurses tend to be younger than other white collar workers). They are very responsible, routinely trusted in matters of life and death. They are socialized to high standards of personal integrity. What’s not to like?
What’s there to explain ? You only gave your answer that you are male and 22 year old. So nothing to explain after this because at this age it happen with everyone .. It’s not about the nurse , it’s the female factor. At this age whoever female talk nicely to us we feel attracted towards her .. Same happen with girls also. So there are many thing which are completely related to age factor so we don’t need to think too much in that because things change as we grow.
I am a retired RN. I never flirted with a patient, or their family or friends. It’s totally unethical and I took my role very seriously; I wasn’t there to hook up with anyone. I did, however, become very disgusted with a nurse who was coming on to my husband who was a patient in the ER. My husband is an attractive 6’5″ guy; I was sitting near his bed when the nurse came in and checked him out (from head to feet and back again), for several seconds, smiling the entire time.
“My, you are one TALL drink of water!” she announced, giving him that look we women all recognize. Then she saw me and made a face, “Who’s THIS?” she pointed at me, as she demanded an answer of my husband. Never mind that he had a massive cluster headache and needed pain relief, or that she insulted me to where I felt like slapping her. I said “I am his wife.
You need to introduce yourself and then quit flirting with your patients. You’re here to relieve his pain, not to get in his pants.” Boy, was she mad! She gave him a shot and left without another word.
I am always very nice to every single patient. I have had more than a few men take that the wrong way in the past 15 years, but I’ve just continued to be nice and professional in those situations and just shrugged it off. I’ve had a few men get an erection if you have to do something in that “area”like a catheter but it’s just a physiologic reaction and usually not about attraction anyway nor controllable. I’ve just shrugged that off as well.
Let me preface this by saying it would be completely unprofessional for a nurse to flirt with his/her patient. I wouldn’t say it’s normal, but I’ve seen it happen many times, especially with the younger nurses over the last 10 years. Many of them aren’t as professional as they should be. Not to be offensive or generalize though because there are many in that generation that would never do this.
I’ve been a critical care nurse for 25 years and when I was young, I had many male patients flirt with me. I’ve seen this happen to many of my co-workers over the years also. So patients flirting with nurses is way more common than nurses flirting with patients.
Speaking from the patient perspective, I have not seen this happen in any hospital I have been in since I became an adult. And due to needing numerous surgeries over my lifetime (and 9 in the last 4+ years), that’s been a lot. That’s not to say I haven’t found any of the nurses in these hospitals attractive (there have been several), but I know where the line is and refused to cross it with any of them, even going so far as to apologize if I feel I’ve so much as brushed against an inappropriate place.